The Mean Girl Syndrome

The Mean Girl Syndrome

Are you familiar with the movie, Mean Girls? It’s about a naïve teenager, the “new girl in town” who encounters the harsh realities of the social hierarchy of high school. It touches upon many of the challenges of female adolescence. The depths we’ll go to be liked...
Finding forgiveness by reframing life stories

Finding forgiveness by reframing life stories

What happens when you reframe your life stories? I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how the way we reframe our life stories in my Journey to Legacy™ program often results in some form of forgiveness — forgiveness of ourselves, the forgiveness of others, active...
A Different Perspective

A Different Perspective

It’s old news at this point, but the incident between Will Smith and Chris Rock at the 94th Annual Academy Awards has stuck with me, and not only because of its inherent controversy.  It was loaded with the kinds of ideas, questions, and complicated inspiration...
Feel better through life story writing

Feel better through life story writing

Examining your “big rock” and “small rock” stories. A Journey to Legacy™ client and I were talking about the results she was experiencing now that she is writing down her life stories. “I feel better,” she said. When I asked her why she thought...
Being Seen in New Ways

Being Seen in New Ways

I remember the first time I heard the word that perfectly described how I was feeling. I was sitting in my therapist’s office, talking about how weird it was to walk down a busy sidewalk and feel like no one noticed me. Or watch a playful interaction between a male...
Rewrite Your Story and Find the Silver Lining

Rewrite Your Story and Find the Silver Lining

Five months after our daughter was born, my husband (at the time) informed me that he had purchased a business in Lake Tahoe, Nevada and we would be moving there from our home in San Jose, California. At first, I resisted. Our marriage was already troubled, and I...